8 Ways To Take Back
Your Marriage
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 1.Plan
'connection rituals' every day that are repeated,
co-ordinated and take on significance – it could be
eating breakfast out together once a week, having a Tuesday
night dip in the spa (just the two of you), or even just doing
chores together every Saturday morning. Make a point of saying
goodbye in the morning and of greeting each other on your
return. Set aside 15 minutes of quiet, private time each evening
just to talk. Go to bed at the same time, even if one of you
is a night owl.
2.Make a big thing of wedding anniversaries
as a ritual that expresses wonder and gratitude for the duration
of your marriage.
3.Don't forget Valentine's Day and birthdays
Find out how these occasions were celebrated in your spouse's
family and adapt them to your own individual rituals.
4.Reclaim time together – and say
sorry if you have to cancel Plan one-on-one time, and if demands
eat into that time, express regret and apologise to your spouse.
It's the failure to do this that often makes the other person
feel unappreciated and overlooked.
5.Don't lose your marriage to the children
Set limits on the time and attention you give them, don't
allow them to interrupt conversations and remember that you
are allowed to set some kind of reasonable limit on their
outside activities (i.e. You don't have to spend the entire
weekend ferrying them about). Remember, your marriage is the
foundation of the family; it's the sun, your children it's
planets – not vice versa.
6.Don't overschedule yourself Clubs, committees
and volunteer work all have their place, but not if they swallow
time that belongs to your spouse. Keep a log of hours away
from your spouse and reorganise your priorities if necessary.
7.Don't lose your marriage to TV or the internet
Get the TV out of the bedroom and recognise early on that
your PC and the internet are powerful absorbers of the individual
time and attention that should be spent with your spouse.
8.Don't let friends, family or therapists undermine
your marriage Unintentional sabotage is common and
dangerous. Comments like “Why are you still there?”
and “You deserve better” reflect a consumer view
of marriage that may undercut the fact of a couple's intrinsic
and enduring affection for each other.
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